If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably spent years — maybe even decades — believing you could keep things “on track” if you just tried hard enough.
Plan ahead.
Work harder.
Fix it for everyone.
Prevent the pain.
Predict the outcome.
Work harder.
Fix it for everyone.
Prevent the pain.
Predict the outcome.
Control it.
But here’s the truth I’ve learned — both in life and in loss, especially through my time as a hospice nurse:
👉 We are not in control of nearly as much as we think we are.
And oddly enough, that realization?
It’s become one of the most peaceful and freeing truths of my life.
It’s become one of the most peaceful and freeing truths of my life.
🧠 The Burden of Believing It’s All Up to Us
I used to carry a lot of weight that didn’t belong to me:
- The responsibility to fix things
- The belief that if I worried enough, I could prevent or predict the outcome
- The guilt of “maybe I could have done more”
But what I’ve come to see is this:
We take on control because it gives us the illusion of safety.
But in the end, it only creates stress, resentment, and exhaustion.
We take on control because it gives us the illusion of safety.
But in the end, it only creates stress, resentment, and exhaustion.
There is so much we are not meant to hold.
🕊 A Moment of Surrender in the Forest
One day, I was sitting quietly beside a stream, meditating and reflecting.
And in that stillness, nature had something to say.
And in that stillness, nature had something to say.
I heard the trees — or maybe it was just a quiet knowing inside me — say:
“You need to be bendable and just sway with it.”
And the stream whispered:
“You need to go with the flow. Resisting the current only makes things harder.”
I know it might sound strange, but in that moment… I believed them.
And I’ve carried that lesson ever since.
And I’ve carried that lesson ever since.
✨ When You Let Go, You Make Space for Peace
Letting go of control doesn’t mean apathy.
It means trust.
It means discernment.
It means honoring your part — and releasing what was never yours to carry in the first place.
It means trust.
It means discernment.
It means honoring your part — and releasing what was never yours to carry in the first place.
Since learning this, I’ve noticed something beautiful:
- Less guilt about the things I couldn’t change
- Less tension in my body
- More grace in my relationships
- And a deeper peace in situations where I used to spiral
It’s not about giving up. It’s about giving yourself back to the moment — fully present, fully open.
💡 This Week’s Rooted Reset
Take 5 minutes and ask yourself:
- What’s one thing I’ve been trying to control that I may need to surrender?
- What would happen if I stopped resisting and started allowing?
- How would it feel to gently release what’s not mine to hold?
You don’t need to control it all.
You were never meant to.
You were never meant to.
And in that release — there’s room to breathe again.
📩 If you’re in a season where you feel like you’re gripping too tightly — to health, to outcomes, to expectations — I see you.
Sometimes just having a space to be honest about it is the first step.
If you need support, or want to hear what helped me through one of the hardest seasons of my life — just reply. I’d be honored to walk with you.
If you need support, or want to hear what helped me through one of the hardest seasons of my life — just reply. I’d be honored to walk with you.
Rachel xo
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